Meet Katy ..

I never set out to talk about the taboo topics for a living.

I was the most vanilla, prude, self conscious Kindergarten teacher out there. The kind who stayed late to help exhausted mums (who hadn’t had an org*sms in months) find lost shoes.

One night, after babysitting something unexpected happened… A couple who’d been together for 12 years sat me down and told me they were swingers.

I laughed.
I blushed.
I was curious.
Confused.
Intrigued.

Before I knew it, they took me to my first swingers party .. and I had no idea that one night would flip my entire world around.

The Doorway Into a New Life ..

What began as innocent curiosity led me deep into the world of non-monogamy, adult industry, swinging, fantasy, tantra, kink, BDSM — and underneath it all, into myself.

Behind every new experience was something bigger smacking me in the face.

• Body shame I’d been carrying since my teens

• How numb I felt because I wasn’t always ‘turned on’

• The people-pleaser in me

• The version of me who faked orgasms and pretended everything was fine

• The silence I fell into after emotional abuse

• The belief that my needs, my body, and my desires didn’t matter

I went from being a Kindergarten Teacher and CrossFit athlete — strong, disciplined, driven — to a woman completely disconnected, numb and lost inside.

Until - something inside me cracked open.

And once it cracked, I couldn’t stop.

The Obsession With Understanding ..

I became obsessed with understanding:

• Why intimacy drops in relationships

• Why men can turn themselves on faster than women

• How sex and love get tangled

• Why women feel dry, disconnected, or numb and struggle to org*sm

• Why desire gets shut down down in women — and how to bring it back

• How our bodies store shame, past trauma and discomfort and how to release it

• Why people cheat and avoid the subject

• Why some people love weird fetishs and others prefer to be a nun.

I dove into everything: sexology, somatics, trauma healing, neuroscience, tantra, attachment dynamics, kink, polyamory, psychology, and conscious relationships.

I wasn’t just studying. I was healing. I was remembering WHO I was. I was rebuilding on a new slate.

Piece by piece,

From Curiosity to Calling ..

Slowly, I started sharing what I was learning — first with friends, then clients, then audiences world wide.

Today, I’m an International Speaker, Workshop Host, Private Intimacy Coach, Relationships Therapist + Sex Educator

I’ve helped over 900 people worldwide - from new parents figuring out what intimacy is, to high level executives having affairs, to mums that carry body shame, to multi figure business owners that have built the empire but live in argumentative relationships and closed loops, to the geek behind the laptop scared to go on a date.

And I do it through the blend that makes my work unique:

• Human psychology

• Somatic experiencing

• Nervous system regulation

• Mind–body behaviour

• Real-life relationship dynamics

• My lived experience across monogamy, polyamory, marriage, swinging, and adult sexuality

• Plus a grounded, playful, radically honest approach to intimacy

Because relationships aren’t simple.
Bodies aren’t textbooks.
Pleasure isn’t a formula.
And healing doesn’t happen from the mind alone.

It happens through truth, connection, honesty, curiosity, and courage.

The Woman Behind the Work ..

You’ll find me living on a private island sipping coconuts, lifting weights in the gym, hosting aphrodisiac pleasure parties and preparing myself for motherhood.

I’m not your clinical therapist in a lab coat.

I’m bold.
Playful.
Grounded.
Honest.
And wildly in love with the human experience